Sunday, July 27, 2008

Sweet Sixteen

My daughter turned 16 yesterday.

I'm still looking for anything that is sweet about it. My baby now wears more makeup than I do (I don't wear any), dresses in clothes that I will never again fit into, and talks to me like she is my Mother.
Just last week she started kindergarten, now she has half the boys in town fawning over her, I can't keep her home to save my (or her) life, no matter how much I want to spend time with her.

My son turned 18 last month, two milestone birthdays in one year is hard to deal with. I am still trying to wrap my head around the fact that my baby boy is an adult now.

Sorry, I just realized how depressed I am.

I also realized as I was typing this that she was coming in to tell me she was going down to her BF's house, then to town and would be back by ten. I minimized the screen but I cant seem to stop the tears from falling and even in this dark room she saw; she stopped and hugged me and said she wouldn't go, while wiping a tear away. I told her it wasn't her fault, to go on, I will be fine.
She argued with me, I told her to go on. She went. They always go.

Hopefully, they will keep coming back.

I have to go start some laundry, work tomorrow, thanks for listening...

6 comments:

Purple Fuzzy Mittens said...

I have no direct experience that I can relate that would make it easier, but I have scads of nieces and nephews and they do all seem to come out the other side of their teen years with family ties shaken, but still very much intact. Hang in there!

Mim said...

Ahh Kids can do that. How dare they go off on their own life! But it is a good thing you raised them that way. I lost our son Dana for 12 years. He gave his wife and daughter all his time and wife wasn't keen on sharing him with Bob and me. Now he is divorced and I'm happy to be more a part of his and granddaughter Brennans life again!

~~Sittin.n.Spinnin said...

I cant imagine how you felt Mim, and he is your only son... I would hate the woman, and I dont hate anything or anyone.

country girl said...

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June said...

Oh, how I feel your pain! My son turned 21 this year and my daughter turned 18 - they will both be gone in two weeks to college - one a senior one a freshman. . .

When they go off and grow up and become responsible adults, it's hard to remember that we did the same to our parents. All you can do is keep providing a safe haven for them, then they always know there is a place for them in this world. You too will grow with this experience, although I know, you don't want to face it now.

Kathy said...

Don't get depressed...just learn to accept the pats on the head and the "Now, now, Mom"s that come with the territory.
My daughter just turned 30 and within a short time of getting her doctorate announced we'll be grandparents around Christmas.
...so now we have to figure out how to afford airline tickets to NZ during the Christmas high season. Oi!